Eloping used to mean a secret dash to the courthouse — but today, it’s all about intention, intimacy, and crafting a celebration that reflects your love story. Whether you're dreaming of a cozy ceremony in the Hudson Valley or exchanging vows under a tree with just the birds as witnesses, eloping can be just as meaningful (and romantic!) as any big wedding — if not more so.
As a wedding officiant who specializes in heartfelt, personalized elopements, I’ve seen just how beautiful these moments can be. So let’s talk about how to make yours truly unforgettable. 💍
Why Couples Choose to Elope (And Why It’s Perfectly Okay)
Before we jump into planning, let’s normalize something: choosing to elope doesn’t mean your love is any less real or your day less special. In fact, most couples who elope are seeking something more — more intimacy, more authenticity, more peace.
Some of the most common reasons couples choose to elope include:
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Wanting to avoid family drama
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Budget-conscious planning
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A love for travel and adventure
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Wanting to focus on the commitment, not the spectacle
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Planning a second marriage or vow renewal
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The simplicity of a "just us" experience
Whatever your reason, your elopement deserves care and intention — and yes, a little romance.
Step 1: Start With Your "Why"
Before you pick a location or shop for a dress, start with the feeling you want to create.
Ask yourselves:
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Do we want this to be quiet and spiritual?
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Do we want it to feel adventurous?
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Is this a symbolic moment before a bigger celebration later?
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Do we want to include a few close friends or family?
Having clarity on your “why” will help guide every other decision — and ensure the day feels like you.
Step 2: Choose the Perfect Location for Your Love Story
One of the best parts about eloping is the freedom to say “I do” anywhere.
Here are some beautiful ideas for meaningful elopement locations:
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Hudson Valley overlooks or riverfront parks (a local gem if you're in New York like me!)
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A family farm or backyard that holds sentimental value
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A cozy Airbnb or cabin in the woods
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A vintage-style chapel or pop-up wedding venue (like my Pop-Up 'I Do' events!)
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A courthouse followed by a mini celebration
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A sunrise/sunset hike for adventurous souls
💡 Tip: Make sure to check local permit requirements if you're eloping in a public park or space.
Step 3: Hire the Right Officiant (Hi, That Might Be Me!)
Your officiant sets the tone for your entire ceremony. Whether you're eloping with two guests or twenty, you want someone who gets your vibe and can make the moment personal, heartfelt, and stress-free.
Here’s what a great elopement officiant should offer:
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A customized ceremony script that reflects your story
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Flexible availability for non-traditional times or locations
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A warm, calming presence who can ease nerves
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Legal handling of all necessary paperwork
Even if your ceremony is short and sweet, it should still feel sacred and unforgettable. That’s my goal for every couple I work with.
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